Equipping young women professionals with young families to find fulfillment, contentment and joy as mothers and home makers without losing sight of who they are as women.

Volume 02, Issue 02: Encourage Others to Become

Every one of us longs to know that our life has a greater meaning than what we experience for ourselves in the day to day. We want to have meaningful effect on other people’s lives. Do you long to make a difference in the lives of others? Let your encouragement birth greatness in the hearts of many.

Inspire others to fulfill their purpose in life. Desist from being self-centered, only thinking of developing yourself. Be about building up and equipping others to be the best they can be. You did not get to where you are on your own. Others who have gone before you provided shoulders for you to climb on. Do the same for others.

Are you willing to develop people until they surpass you in knowledge and ability? Great people are determined to see their counterparts rise to a level equal or even greater than themselves. They are fulfilled when they see their protégés living up to their fullest potential.

Should you feel threatened by the success of others, begin by investing in your own security. Once you are secure in your own worth, you will be able to allow others to thrive in their giftings and encourage them to do so without feeling threatened by their achievements.

Be driven by the needs of those around you. Know when to reach out. Some people are too petrified to get started without your help. Recognize that sometimes your protégés need your encouragement, assistance and inspirational presence in order to launch out their dream.

Don’t merely suggest. Follow through. Encourage others to move forward. Don’t be too busy in your own world, with your own concerns to stop and focus on others. Take the time to remind others of their purpose in life and then get them going. Let them know that you have their back all the way. If you are going to give, you might as well be extravagant with your support.

With follow-through, know when to let go and force others to spread their own wings, take their own journeys. Do not help others to paralysis. Know when to encourage and when to release others to grow into the fullness of who they were created to be. Master the delicate balance of encouraging without rescuing, to allow others to exercise their inner being and grow in strength, empowered and liberated by their personal achievements.

When we focus on helping others to be great, we end up being greater by virtue of having helped them. We cannot lift others to higher heights without their collective achievements lifting us even higher.

Lillian Chebosi

Volume 02, Issue 01: Prepare for Opportunities

Prepare for opportunities before they show up. Get yourself ready beforehand. Let the opportunities you are waiting for find you ready, well equipped to capitalize on them.

Before doing anything great, you have to become it. Once you discover your potential, develop your strengths and make yourself ready for approaching opportunities. Don’t wait for opportunities to come in order to begin preparing for them. The few who rule the world prepare for the opportunity long before it appears.

The question is not whether or not opportunities will come. The question is, will your opportunities find you prepared? Once you discover what you are good at, take the time to prepare adequately to be ready for approaching opportunities. Some opportunities come only once. Don’t be ill prepared and consequently miss the opportunity of your lifetime.

The successful are always prepared for the moment when opportunity knocks. Opportunity will knock indeed. But if it doesn’t find a prepared vessel, it moves on in search of someone who is ready to welcome success, or whatever the heart desires.

If you have waited long enough for a chance to live up to your potential, you have realized that life is a do it yourself project. Your success will be the product of the investment you make in developing yourself today for tomorrow’s opportunities. Prepare for opportunities, ready yourself to capitalize on them when they arrive.

Lillian Chebosi

Volume 01, Issue 52: Charisma and Your Gift

Listening to the speeches of the likes of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr, US President Barrack Obama, Our very own Prime Minister Raila Odinga, we may be drawn to deduce that prominence is only for those with charismatic abilities. You may consider yourself and admit to having no pinch of charisma and subsequently disqualify yourself from greatness. That on the grounds that you cannot draw a crowd’s attention to yourself, you could never be great. But what really is charisma? Is it standing at a podium and addressing people?

Real charisma is not about impressing people but being other people minded. Dr. Martin Luther King’s historic speech "I Have a Dream" was not about impressing people but the expression of his deep felt commitment for the freedom of his people.

It is not charisma that makes you great. It is your gift. Everybody is charismatic when operating in their gift. When you do that which you love to do, that which you are passionate about and best expresses your heart; or that which you are naturally good at, that which you were built for; you cannot help it but be charismatic. The honours is then to connect with your gift, isn’t it?

There’s that one thing that makes you come alive and gives you the greatest satisfaction when you do; that which you do with ease - comes naturally to you; and that you can be the best at. When you discover it, you will realize that you too are charismatic whenever you get an opportunity to operate in it.

The Bible reiterates that your gift will make room for you and bring you before great men. Doesn’t it then mean that we receive the most fulfillment, recognition and reward when we operate in our gift? Due to the dynamics of life it is a given that we do not operate in our gift all the time. But it certainly would serve us well if we took every opportunity to maximize the times we function in our gift.

Lillian Chebosi

Volume 01, Issue 51: Celebrate Others

God has given each of us different strengths so that we can make distinctive contributions to the world. As you play your part, you should not expect everyone else to have your strengths. Instead, we must value each other’s contributions because nobody can do it all. You must never belittle someone else’s contribution.

We shouldn’t be overly concerned with the limelight being just on us. It’s not just about you. Others around you are making commendable strides on their journeys. Stop and notice with delight, and while you are at it, be sure not to keep it from them. We must nurture the attitude of being genuinely happy for other people’s accomplishments.

You are not the only one entitled to enjoy good tidings. God is in the business of blessing people and he is no respecter of persons. So don’t get astounded when others around you prosper. Gladly celebrate other people’s good fortune without a twinge.

Graciously give credit where it is due and celebrate the victory of others without drawing undue attention to yourself. Within the teams that you work in, learn to always congratulate others for a job well done.

Give praise where it is due. Everyone responds to praise, people and God alike. So don’t be stingy with your praises. It costs you nothing and it enriches the lives of those around you. Be open with your admiration without arousing jealousy and covetousness in yourself.

Celebrating other people’s successes is a strength that we should all embrace. It says we are mature and confident in ourselves enough to openly acknowledge the accomplishments of others with genuine elation. We shouldn’t be intimidated by the success of others. People who can’t celebrate others are insecure about themselves.

Learn how to empower those in your life by celebrating the contributions they make and magnifying even their small advancements to spur them on to greater heights. Be driven to draw out the best in others by being aware that you are only as great as those who surround you.

Lillian Chebosi

Volume 01, Issue 50: Losses are Inevitable, but Misery is Optional

Life may deal you harshly, giving you opportunities to be bitter about your lack or loss, and wallow in depression and self-pity, ignoring opportunities around you for joy. Nothing could lead you faster to the house of misery than a self-destructive attitude.

Some people manage to look good on paper despite what is going on beneath the surface. They never let others see them sweat. This is a winning approach to life. It is all about having immovable faith no matter what is happening around you. What do you do when life hands you a bowl of lemons? 

The great do not give in easily to crisis. They do not allow it to change their demeanor. They understand disappointments and setbacks are inevitable, but misery is optional. Don’t be bowed by your pain. Rather, learn to transfer pain into a positive thing. Let not your circumstances walk all over you. Master the art of living over your circumstances.

When jammed in a crisis, don’t get caught up in wanting to tell everyone about your problem, broadcasting your misfortunes to the world so to speak. Quietly search for a solution instead, before getting everyone excited. If all attempts fail, resign yourself to your loss and weather it by continuing your life gracefully.

Those who weather the storms of life and stand the test of time and tribulation eventually receive the honour due to them. There is a tree that grows in the mountainside in Lebanon that has been cruelly broken by the strong winds that rage against the side of these enormous hills time and time again. In their brokenness, they grow anyway, releasing resin to patch the break. They grow tall in spite of the elements that threaten to destroy them. Over time, the cedars of Lebanon gained the reputation for being the strongest of woods.

Adversity is the refiner of integrity and character. Allow your trouble to birth a graciousness in you. Become truly great by bowing under the weight of your pain and then rise from the ashes, smoothing your garments to continue on your way. Never breaking, always bending and lifting yourself to a place higher than you were before. Determine to survive and excel against all odds. Like the cedar, bow but don’t break, releasing what you need to in order to heal yourself, enduring the trials of life and turbulent conditions.

When disappointment comes, walk softly and resist the urge to submerge yourself in your pain. Rather, turn your focus on the solution and pursue it. Don’t give room for bitterness but arise with grace to embrace even those that you see as the source of your pain. Stand in the face of tribulation keeping your eyes on the true source of strength and restoration, and believe that all will be well.

Purpose to live life gracefully at all costs, weathering life’s difficulties with your head held high. Embrace and use pain to make you stronger. Given your misfortune, don’t give up the fight to bring your dream back to life.

Lillian Chebosi